Saturday 28 January 2012

coming out

I still unable to come out to my family, but I came out to my housemates. I still remember clearly when I was coming out to my exhousemate (AP) seven years ago. I was just moving in with him for a few weeks but we were so close. He was chasing this girl and we had a little discussion to the point where he disagree that girl can be a guy's best friend.

AP: I don't think a guy and a girl can be a best friend.
M: Yes they can, look at the girl you chase right now, she spills everything out to me but not talking to you
AP: hmm, well, they can probably be best friends, if the guy is gay

awkward moment...

AP: oh wait, don't tell me .... [stare... 5.... 4....3...2..1. ]
M: yep, I am gay
AP: [jaw drop, his spoon full of rice fall from his hands]
M: yeh, I been thinkin to tell you since we're gonna be housemates for coming years

another awkward moment...

AP: so...... does it mean that you like me? as in attracted to me
M: HELLL....!!!  NOOOO....!!! EWWWW....!!! c'mon seriously...!!!
M: the reason I choose you as my housemate is because I know I will never be attracted to you even if you're the last guy on earth and yet I can still be myself at the same time

AP: then?
M: Look, just because that old lady in happy chef chinese restaurant downstairs has a VeeJayJay doesn't mean you like her right? Same thing goes to you la, just because you have penis doesn't mean I am attracted to you, daa... It takes more than just penis for me to get attracted to a guy.

We had an awkward week after that conversation that night, but I couldn't be bothered anyway, busy with assignments I locked myself in my room most of the time. I still cooked for us and eat dinner as usual. A week later we get back to normal with the piggy back jokes. We became brothers since then and housemates for six years. His parents treated me as their third son whenever they visit us in Sydney, even until now.

Since then, I decided I will have to let my housemate knows about me whoever they are. After AP moved out. My new housemate is Dee, I didn't need to comeout to her because when she inspect the place, AP let her went to my room and she saw nine pictures of me and J on study table. Ah makes things easier then....

So what's your coming out story? ***

20 comments:

  1. wow, interesting!! :)
    it is really nice that you came out to someone and they accepted you. I still dont have the courage to come out to any of my straight friends.
    oh btw you changed back to your old profile pic! XD

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    1. haha, ya lo, change it back... I still feel awkward if I dun put my pic for some reason, as if I'm a secret ninja rantaro or something,

      OMG, I used to have like a bunch of the manga book of ninja rantaro man... dunknow where they are now

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    2. that actually new pic tho, not old one, only one month old or so

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  2. Haha, He actually drop his rice?? =PP

    Omg.. What a coincidence.. I wanted to write about a coming out yesterday.. haha!

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    1. write it out, I wanna hear the story

      and yes he actually did drop his spoon full of rice, and his jaw drop was full of food as well because he was munching so hard when he gave me the stare....

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  3. I started coming out to my straight friend end of last year. I msg-ed all of my close friends half an hour before 2011 ended and told them who I really am, took a huge gamble. So it's either I will begin a bright new year with them or without them, their choice ^_^

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    1. wah, that's awesome soul232, I should find your facebook... hahahahaha

      I did tell all my straight close friends within a month after that night tho, including the straight guy I had crush with and yet he still buzz my apartment at 2 am in the morning whenever he was starving while doing assignments (he just lived across the street)

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    2. erm...good luck with that though u aren't a bad stalker urself :P maybe it's better than me go finding u. I gave up ard >_<

      U told him u got crush on him also? If u did, I really salute u..haha ^_^

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    3. Actually I did, then one night he turned up to my room and tell me that he knew it all along [that I have a crush on him] but that doesn't change the friendship and the way he sees me so everything stays the same la

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    4. That is one great friend u got there :) I'm jealous xD

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  4. I came out to three straight friends last year. One was by mistake. And he said "this doesn't change anything between us" I was so happy. When I told the second friend he was like "So?". Haha. And my third friend, she told me she won't believe it unless she sees me kiss a guy. So she still doesn't believe that I'm gay which is rather annoying at times. I think I click better with gay friends than straight ones anyway. Although, at times I just want to mingle with straight people because I don't believe that one's sexual orientation should be that big of a deal. It's kinda like someone being a vegetarian. To me atleast.

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    1. yay vegan,

      yeh, friendship shall not change despite one's sexual preference

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  5. love this story ^^

    I came out to 3 friends - 2 of whom are my close friends (and they have been pretty supportive so far) and to 1 guy whom I used to like (he's straight, but I took the risk confessing my love to him lol!)

    Hoping to come out to more people cos it gets annoying when people ask me when I am going to get a girlfriend and get married hahahaha!!!!

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    1. haha

      yeh, comeout to more, it feels lighter, the hard part is the first step

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  6. malimo , are u from malaysia ? or are u really indonesian ? btw , i think ur really hawt ...saya rasa engkau sungguh hensem , tak setanding dengan saya....boleh kita bersama ?

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    1. waaa... xiexie ooi2009, I am Indonesian Indon le, got no malaysian blood in me

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  7. very nice coming out story! NICE!!!!!

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  8. My memory is like a goldfish... hahaha... Couldn't even remember I had the conversation, although I did remember Dee's inspection ^_^

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